Sexual assault

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Crawling into bed with a woman does not mean sinking into her soul. Men understand this - the sexual act itself is not essential for them. It is much more important to capture a woman, force and humiliate, that is, to use violence against her will: no matter what you do and no matter how you ask, he does not hear you, you are just a toy without the right to be a person.

Rape in its purest form The police respect such cases, sympathize with the victims, and look for criminals. The victim was returning home, on the way (in the elevator, in the entrance) she was attacked, hit with something heavy on the head, knocked down and raped. This is how rape is presented to us in detective films, and this is how it actually happens. All rape of this kind is an accident, from which no one is immune. Any woman can stand in the way of a criminal, even an eighty-year-old grandmother who does not sit at home late at night or who has decided to walk through an abandoned construction site during the day.

The conclusion is obvious: in the evening and at night one should not walk, and visit deserted places only with a reliable man or a well-trained dog. If, nevertheless, a stranger or a suspicious person walking in front began to pursue you, stopped and waited for your approach, do not hesitate to openly demonstrate that you noticed him. There is no need to scream and spray into it from a spray can. But you can speed up (slow down) steps, change the route (for example, go to the other side), put your hand in your pocket in advance, where a rusty key or nail file is. In no case should you stop, respond to comments and compliments, answer questions:"

One woman, when she was attacked in an elevator, grabbed the perpetrator by the nose with both hands and began to rotate. He hadn't expected such a reaction and let the elevator doors open. The woman got her bearings, began to shout, the tenants came running, and everything turned out well.

There was another such case. A man attacked the girl from behind when she was returning home from work. She did not even think to scream, because I knew for sure that there was no one within a radius of one kilometer. She just tossed her purse one way, her shoes the other. While the criminal was perplexed, she kicked him in the solar plexus. He crumpled in pain, and the girl at that time picked up her shoes, a handbag and, throwing him: "If you don't know how, don't grab it," she left.

If you're sure you can be heard, shout. But not "Help!" or "Rape!", but meaningful specific phrases. For example, one of my colleagues was almost dragged into a green Zhiguli. But she started yelling for the whole block: "People! Remember: green Zhiguli, a mustachioed brunette." It worked, she was left alone.

And the last one: whenever you return from a party, and no matter how many men follow you, the most important thing is self-confidence and full awareness that nothing will happen to you. I do not even admit that this can happen - this cannot be, because this can never be.

You are the one to blame! The police are skeptical about such cases and sometimes even feel sympathy for the offender. It is about the woman's behavior provoking a man. For example, I have heard the opinion that they don’t go to a restaurant just like that, or rather they don’t drive - for a delicious dinner you will certainly have to pay with your body. What if you agreed to have a glass of wine with a man not even in a restaurant, but in a cheap cafe, then you agree to everything else. And, finally, every self-respecting man, if he is alone with a woman, is simply obliged to pester her.

Based on the foregoing, anything can push a man into harmful thoughts: accidentally throwing his legs over his legs, casual laughter, a stupid anecdote, and even more so, drinking alcohol and agreeing to eat ice cream together. You cannot flirt with them, call for frank conversations, compliment them and borrow money from them, and in general, it is better to stay away from them. And in defense of women who are "themselves to blame," I want to note:

- wanting to be liked does not mean wanting to sleep;

- no matter how often a woman says "yes", she always has the right to say "no";

- no matter how a woman behaved before that, if she says "no" - it means exactly "no" and nothing else.

What if this happened?

1. Do not blame yourself, do not consider yourself lost, dirty, unworthy of love. You did your best to prevent this from happening, but the strength was on his side.

2. To instill in myself the idea that everything could have ended much worse. The bruise under the eye will come off, you have been going to throw away the torn dress for a long time, you are alive - thank God.

3. Speak out, share with a person who will not read moral teachings and reproach, but will simply listen.

4. Seek help from specialists - gynecologist, psychologist, psychotherapist.

5. Despite the sincere desire to kill the insolent person - to forgive him. Forgiveness is very important for getting back to normal. Rape is an attempt on the person's life. Being tied to a criminal by hatred, you will not be able to feel your worth and freedom again.

6. Contact law enforcement. Evil must be punished.

7. Learn to be careful. In the sense, to anticipate and prevent a dangerous situation. Indeed, 25 percent of women who have been raped are subjected to repeated violence.

Prepared by Rachel Hunter