5 things wives hide from husbands

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

As soon as you tie the knot, ideally everything becomes common for you - and not only material things, but also the details of your life. However, most women have at least a few problems that they will never share with their chosen one (even under torture). Should they still open up or continue to hush up?

1. Health problems

If a woman discovers something suspicious about her health (for example, a lump in the chest), she can tell her mother, but not her husband. Psychologists say that women hide anxiety from their husbands in order to protect them from stress, to reduce it. However, when you force the mother to keep the problem a secret, this is also not the best way out, because it will not diminish the problem. At the same time, you close yourself off from your husband, who is quite capable of providing the necessary support at the right time. After all, everyone deserves a shoulder that you can rely on in difficult times, and marriage itself already presupposes such support.

2. Relationship problems

Quarrels, disappointments, domestic disputes (where and how to live, how to raise children) - if any of this worries a woman, she is often silent. At most, one will go to a psychologist to solve problems. According to statistics, a fairly large number of ladies do this. At the same time, their goal is to decide whether to maintain such a relationship or not.

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3. Sexual preferences

Psychologists and sexologists know many women who complain about their dissatisfaction in bed. At the same time, they are afraid to tell their husbands that they are not satisfied with everything, believing that this can hurt their feelings. The psychologist's advice is to discuss such things first of all outside the bedroom, slowly and calmly, it is imperative to tell not only about what you do not like, but also emphasize what you like.

4. Career success

Surprisingly, women are less inclined to come home and talk about their success at work. They do not do this so as not to emphasize or increase the difference between themselves and their spouse and not to diminish the dominant role of men.

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5. Personal finance

Women hide the details of their personal finances for various reasons, but as a rule, they are taught this by their mothers. "The golden motherly rule" - always have a cash stash in case the relationship ends abruptly.

It might give a sense of security, but if your spouse finds out about such a stash, he may think that you are already preparing for a divorce. One small secret in his thoughts will entail much larger and more unpleasant consequences, so it is better to weigh all the possible consequences in advance.