30 steps to happiness

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The great French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau believed that three conditions must be met for happiness: a good bank account, a good cook, and a good stomach. But nevertheless, Kozma Prutkov was closer to the truth, who simply said: "If you want to be happy, be happy."

Are you happy?

They say that happiness is about loving and being loved. Others argue that happiness is about knowing your future. Still others claim that happiness is in children. Once I saw an ad: "Happiness is a computer connected to the Internet." As you can see, each person has their own concept of happiness. What is happiness for you? Are you happy?

The surest and perhaps the only way to become happy is to imagine yourself as such. Many psychologists think so. However, if you ask people today, "Are you happy?", Most will answer "no" for various reasons.

According to ROMIR (Russian Public Opinion and Market Research), more than 50% of Russians need more money to be happy, 12.5% want to be more successful at work, 11.1% need love, 6.4% lack time, 2, 5% lack of entertainment. And only 3% of Russians consider themselves "completely happy".

I hope that you belong to this three percent, and the problems that arise do not interfere with your happiness. But if you have depression, problems in your personal life or the onset of autumn spoils your mood, I propose to spend a little relaxation of the mind and body.

One piece at a time

Of course, despite all the advice of doctors, psychologists, sociologists, sexologists, you cannot order yourself to be happy. You cannot wake up one day and say, "From now on, I will live happily." After all, happiness is, first of all, a state of mind. And this must be done gradually in small steps.

2 October. As soon as you wake up, go to the mirror, smile and say that you are beautiful and worthy of happiness

The word for a person is a powerful factor that can change the state of not only his inner world, but also have a serious impact on the physiological processes in the body. By using physiological memory, the body can be encouraged to remember and relive pleasant moments.

October 3rd. Eat your favorite cake and don't worry about calories

Believe it or not, fat men are recognized as the happiest people. Nobel laureate James Watson studied the processes in lean and fat bodies and concluded that fat stimulates beneficial reactions for the body and promotes the production of endorphins that improve mood. So, in addition to enjoying your favorite sweetness, you will also receive a charge of positive emotions.

The 4th of October. Try to talk with yourself, with your inner self

This way you can cheer yourself up. Psychologists call this "talking to your inner child." This is the state in which we all periodically stay, this is spontaneity, sincerity, creativity, openness. This is us until 5 years old. Tell him that you love him very much, you will always protect him and take care of him. Of course, if we constantly criticize and evaluate ourselves, it is difficult to suddenly fall in love and accept ourselves in one day. But such attention to your inner world has a positive effect on your emotions.

October 5. Make it new

Accustomed to living according to a certain plan? Redesign it completely today! Do not check your child's lessons, instead of a dressing gown and slippers, put on an evening dress and style your hair, skip your favorite TV show, and read yourself a fairy tale at night, not just another detective story. Any violation of stereotypes will give strength and bring new impressions.

October 6. Imagine

Think about how you will spend the next weekend. They are just around the corner. Make a small plan. Choose right now what you will do. After all, the expectation of the pleasant also brings pleasure.

October 7th. So, today is your first legal day off. Spend it to your advantage and spend some time exercising

Any physical activity gives a healthy person a real pleasure. Academician Pavlov IP called this feeling "muscle joy". It is believed that during physical exertion, a kind of natural drugs are produced in the brain, leading to euphoria - a feeling of lightness, carelessness, fun.

October 8th. Have a rest

You did a good job and now you can relax. Dedicate this Sunday to "doing nothing." Many of us are used to giving our weekends away cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, and shopping. Simply because on other days there is not enough time for it. Ask your beloved for help: let him run around the shops, cook dinner (even if it is a simple scrambled eggs) and vacuum the apartment. Take his place on the couch next to the TV and a bunch of magazines.

October 9th. Call your old friends and find time to meet

Firstly, such meetings give joy, and secondly, scientists have proven that lonely and uncommunicative people suffer more and get sick more often.

The takeaway is simple: good company is about preventing happiness.

October 10th. Take yourself twice as much time as usual

Go to the salon. Get your hair, manicure or makeup done. Put on nice underwear. If you spend half an hour in front of the mirror, spend an hour or an hour and a half on this activity today. Awareness of your attractiveness and femininity lifts your spirits.

October 11. Have fun

Forget about getting up for work tomorrow. Go to the dances, to the club, have a fun evening. This will help you distract from everyday worries and add a little more happiness to your "inner chest".

October 12. Have yourself a day of laughter

The Kultura TV channel certainly keeps your intellectual level in good shape. And reading newspapers is the morning ritual of any educated person. But there is an autumn blues and life periods of dark colors, when the series "Sasha and Masha" or any comedy can become a real salvation.

October 13. Give your loved one a gift.

Who said that surprises are made only on holidays? After all, you want flowers not only on March 8th. It is not necessary to spend crazy money on a gift. Buy something small, have a romantic dinner, get a massage. This will bring him joy, and therefore, make you happier too.

October 14. Have a quiet day

Experts have found that noise in our lives is one of the most annoying factors. Today is a day off and there is no need to rush anywhere. Close the windows so you don't hear the din of the street. The ideal option is to stay in the apartment alone. This will allow you to enjoy the silence, to find peace.

October 15th. Take the risk of doing what previously seemed impossible

Ever wanted to become a rock climber or skydive but lacked the spirit? Go for it! Overcoming your fears is a sure step towards happiness. In addition, you will be overwhelmed with a sense of pride, which is important for achieving your main goal.

October 16. Eat vanilla ice cream

Ice cream makes us happy. Scientists have shown that just one spoonful of ice cream revives the "happy zones" in the brain in much the same way as listening to your favorite music or winning money.

17 October. Share your problems and experiences with loved ones

Thus, you "lighten the soul" and to some extent free yourself from a heavy burden. And the realization of the very fact that you are not alone and can always rely on a specific person makes your life sweeter.

October 18th. Take yourself a little evening walk

Go to the park, sit on a bench, breathe in the fresh air, collect a herbarium of yellowed autumn leaves. Such an evening exercise can brighten up minor daytime troubles, allow you to calm down.

October 19th. Sing it

Not whispering quietly under his breath, but loudly. Sing from the heart. Any song you like and remember. Sing in the bathroom, in the kitchen while preparing breakfast. It doesn't matter that "the bear stepped on the ear." Such "music" has a very positive effect on mood and gives a powerful boost of energy. Another plus - you will please your neighbors in this way, who are always sticking their nose into your affairs.

The 20th of October. Relax

Listen to your favorite music, take a bath with aromatic oils. It will energize you at the end of the week and cheer you up.

October 21. Go shopping

Nothing cheers up a woman like shopping. Even a simple trinket can put a smile on your face. Well, a new blouse or jeans will make you happier for a whole week.

22 of October. Do whatever you want

Do you want to decorate the Christmas tree? So what's the problem? So what, there are more than two months before the New Year. Do not pay attention to your family if you see sidelong glances in your direction. Your mood will rise, and this is the main thing. The husband can also be involved in this game, and for the child this day will become a real holiday.

October 23. Breathe in your favorite scents

Japanese scientists have found that the sense of smell is a very important factor in determining a person's well-being: smells affect the nervous system. So, for example, the smell of lemon invigorates and refreshes the senses, the smell of a rose increases the ability to work. Thus, without noticing it, you can be charged with positive emotions from the very morning, just by splashing yourself with your favorite perfume.

October 24. Get out old photo albums

Memories will stir up forgotten positive feelings in you, because photos often contain many happy moments of your life.

October 25: Give your soul material to work with

Go to a concert, art gallery, theater or cinema, read poetry, watch the sun set or rise, look up at the starry sky, or attend any event or place that can energize you with positive energy. You can also meditate with special music.

October 26: pamper your stomach

Prepare something delicious, festive. You can not? I won't believe it for anything! Even the worst chef can create a unique dish, just like famous chefs. This will give you confidence in your culinary abilities and improve the mood not only for you, but for everyone at home.

27th October. Do your favorite thing

Is your hobby drawing, collecting coins or embroidering? Take some time today and you will see how the feeling of satisfaction will increase in proportion to this.

28 of October. Get yourself a pet

A pet is always a joy. No time to leave? Buy a goldfish, it will not take much of your time, but it will be able to give you a lot of positive impressions. The main thing is that your "neighborhood" does not develop into a situation, as in that joke: having bought yourself a goat, you will understand how happy you were without it.

29th of October. Dream about the future

Make plans, better together with your loved one, think about how you will live in a year, what kind of children you will have (if not yet). This simple action will fill you to the brim with happiness from the realization that you love and are loved.

October 30. Do a good deed

Naturally, you already help people. But try to devote a whole day to this. Play "pioneer", if possible, connect your friends and family to this. Help the grandmother to cross the road, explain to the passer-by where the pharmacy is. Do whatever you want, no matter how ridiculous it looks. This will help you to feel your own worth and return to childhood.

October 31. Look back

Remember everything you have achieved over the past year. Don't forget about even the smallest successes. Now put everything together. And you will understand that you are happy!