How to make the right choice

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

We have stood at a crossroads so many times in our lives that it seems that we should have already developed our own, accurate and win-win decision-making method. But no - no matter what choice we face, we still rush from corner to corner, doubt and do not sleep at night - it is difficult to fall asleep when the further development of events depends on your “yes” or “no”. Of course, each case is unique, and it is rather difficult to give general recommendations to those who do not know what to choose, but we will try to help you understand the situation and yourself, so that you can take the decision-making process more calmly.

To get a new job or not? Try your luck in another city or stay in your own? Buying new shoes or saving money for a vacation? These and other questions torment us every day. Moreover, the subject of choice does not have to be serious and life-determining in order to fill all our thoughts. We can be equally worried about the insignificant little things, and about the things on which our future depends. And, as a rule, we spend much more mental energy not on thinking about what choice to make, but on torment and torment about this. “Eh, if I knew what this or that decision of mine would entail,” you think doomedly, because you understand that you are not given a chance to open the veil of the secrets of the future. And you begin to worry even more, fearing that by saying “yes” where you should have said “no”, you will break your own life once and for all: “What if I regret it? What if I don't understand something now? Maybe my friends are right, who advise to agree, and not me, inclined to refuse? And you start to panic, you think that it would be better if this choice did not stand in front of you at all, even if everything remained in its place and you would not worry so much …

Relax! In such a state, not a single person is capable of making a deliberate and balanced decision, and all your further actions will most likely be dictated by emotions and excitement, but not by common sense.

Take a deep breath and exhale several times, open the window to let in the fresh air that smells more and more of the coming spring into the room, and get ready to follow our advice. Perhaps today you will give yourself the answer to the question that torments you.

Tune in to a positive mood

First, let go of the fear of doing something wrong by saying to yourself: “Whatever decision I make, it will be right anyway, because this is my path and my choice. I will be able to cope with all the difficulties that arise along the way. I will be happy because I can finally start acting instead of just thinking and doubting. And believe me - all this is true, it will be so.

Explore the perspective

When making a choice, you should have as much information as possible about its subject. For example, you are in doubt whether to move to a metropolis for permanent residence. Perhaps you should stay in your hometown? Try to figure out the advantages and disadvantages of both options. Ask knowledgeable people about the average level of salaries and rental prices in the city of your dreams, and also figure out if you will spend more on the move than you can earn in the first months of living in a new place? Of course, long-term investments are good, but a smart businessman always thinks about possible risks.

Of course, long-term investments are good, but a smart businessman always thinks about possible risks.

Trust your intuition

This method contradicts the one we will talk about later, but how many people - so many opinions, so choose (well, what is it, and here you have to choose!), Which is closer to you. So, trust your intuition and ask yourself, “What decision will make me happy right now? What will make me feel confident and protected? " You will see, the correct answer will come to mind. Further, of course, the mind will "refine" it, winding up a bunch of doubts and the usual "what if", but you will, as they say, with your heart feel where you are drawn more.

Cold calculation

Well, here there is no question of any intuition, everything is decided by dry facts, but perhaps this is what you - excited and agitated - just need right now. This method is probably familiar to you: you take a sheet of paper, a pen and write down the pros and cons of each option, and then evaluate what is a serious flaw and what you can tolerate. The same goes for the benefits: some of them will significantly change your life for the better, while others you wrote just for show. Take a critical look at the resulting diagram and you will see a complete picture of the situation. Sometimes only such a cold calculation helps.

Take a piece of paper and a pen and jot down the pros and cons of each option, and then evaluate what is a serious flaw and what can be tolerated.

Don't be afraid to make decisions that don't suit your family, friends, and colleagues. If you feel that a particular choice will bring you more happiness than another, for which others advocate, do as you see fit. Only you will live with this, as, in principle, and be disappointed (if it suddenly happens) - you will also have to do it alone. But you will not blame others for pushing you to the wrong decision. You alone are responsible for your life.