How to make the right decision

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

What dress to wear for tomorrow's party? What to give your loved one for his birthday? Is the husband cheating or not? And if so, what to do? Let's try to figure out how make the right decision? For some people, such problems do not exist, since most choices are made impulsively or intuitively, while others find it difficult to make any decision. The problems are essentially different for everyone, the consequences of decisions and elections are also different, but if nothing is done, then the situation is likely to be aggravated by torment, doubts, insomnia, and neurasthenia. Of course, on each occasion, you can consult with friends, relatives, psychologists, and even fortune-tellers. "Advice, even from the mouth of the wise, is a dangerous gift. Events can turn and take the wrong course." (D. R. R. Tolkien). The whole burden of implementing the decision, including the one that was advised, and the responsibility for the consequences lies entirely with you. Below we give a few simple rules that can be followed in situations of difficult choice.

1. We must realize

that you are in a situation of choice (not formally, but deeply, essentially). To choose does not mean to break it or to throw it away, it means to see the situation as if from the outside, to figure out the best solution to the problem, to find your place in it.

2. Next

present all the pros and cons of the options.

3. Having understood the situation

in the "pluses" and "minuses" of various options, do not be afraid of the risk, it usually justifies itself and is inevitable in the state of Choice: but the choice always justifies itself when you are less sorry about the missed opportunities.

4. Reconcile in advance

with inconveniences and even losses, which are inevitable in any case.

5. Get ready

what make the right decision it is also very difficult to take responsibility for the choice, since along with the advantages of choice one must bear the burden of all its negative manifestations.

6. Decided - act

Don't try to go back halfway to other options. These throwing from one to another will not lead to anything good, and besides, they will significantly complicate an already complex life.

7. Rejoice in what you have acquired

- it will give you new strength. Don't be discouraged by the inevitable losses - they are not worth it. In case of an erroneous decision, use the new knowledge for your own benefit - analyze, correct, wisdom.

In general, the problem of Choice is much broader and deeper than any, even the most complete and wise recommendations. It must be remembered that the Choice is always within our power, trials are always within our reach, and that events bring us to a cardinal choice (decision, crisis) gradually, gradually. Of course, in life everything is a little more complicated than in the third grade in the arithmetic lesson (although not every third grader will understand you correctly), but the most important thing is that you must learn to get the correct answer yourself, without outside help and hints and make the right decision you must yourself.