3 main sexual complexes: how to deal with them

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Sometimes it is not external circumstances that hinder us from enjoying sex with a beloved (or not so) man, but our complexes, which, unfortunately, are much more difficult to deal with. You are embarrassed to do "it" in the light - you can turn off the lamp, if you get caught in an inept lover - you go to look for a real master. But what to do with your own "troubles" that turn absolutely all bed scenes into a pitiful parody of full sex?

In order to overcome sexual complexes, you must first admit to yourself that they exist, and stop blaming your partner for intimate dissatisfaction, noisy neighbors from above and exhausting work. Undoubtedly, all this can also negatively affect the quality of sex, but if it remains "average" regardless of external circumstances, then look for the problem in yourself.

Of course, admitting that you have any problems of an intimate nature is sometimes very difficult. Since childhood, we are accustomed to the fact that the topic of sex is under a strict taboo, and discussing it is the height of indecency. It is not surprising that, learning everything in practice, we make a lot of mistakes, but we don’t even think about talking to someone about them. Well, the time has come for revelations: impartially evaluate your sexual behavior, which has developed over the years of practice, and try to understand what exactly does not make you feel like a desirable and liberated woman. And we, in turn, will help you figure out why this is happening and what to do about it.

My appearance is an example of asexuality

For some reason, it is the appearance that confuses most of the fair sex. And what is surprising is that they are all so different that if we wanted to understand who should not be ashamed of their own body, we still could not. Both ladies in body and women of model appearance consider themselves non-sexual. Each of them will definitely find something in herself that, in her opinion, should scare men away. But real men have absolutely no standards according to which they either want or do not want this or that woman. Everything is much more complicated. Sex and appearance are so distant concepts that they should not even be put on a par.

What to do? Of course, you shouldn't stop taking care of yourself. Take care of your own body, groom and cherish it, pamper it with various procedures. But you need all this not so that a particular man wants you, but so that you yourself look at yourself with desire. If, say, you do depilation regularly, but the complexes still remain, try the following exercise: being at home alone, undress and stand in front of a mirror. Try to focus your attention on what you like about yourself. Imagine that it is not you who are looking at your naked body, it is your beloved man looking at him with admiration. You will see - several such sessions, and the complex will slowly begin to recede.

It's a shame to do it, it's indecent to do it

The man is tired of the missionary position, and he suggests trying something new, which seems to you the height of indecency. You are embarrassed to tell him about your feelings - suddenly he will think that you are a squeezed clown - but do not go from discussions to active actions either. As a result, problems are brewing in bed, the roots of which are then very, very difficult to find.

What to do? To begin with, accept the fact that in bed you and your man are a completely separate world, in which there is no place for imaginary morality and out of nowhere for the notions of "you can, you can not."Perhaps it is worthwhile to agree to his proposal once and see what comes of it? If the man's requests seem to you to be completely "beyond the bounds", then it is better to tactfully talk to him about this, but do not hush up the problem. Only no "you're a pervert, how did it come to your mind?" This way you will shake off any desire from him once and for all. Calmly explain what exactly bothers you, and together find a way out of this situation. A man who is with you not only because of sex will certainly make some concessions.

By the way, organize a joint trip to the store for adults and buy there something that you and he will like - some toy, massage oil, sexy lingerie. Thus, you will add some piquancy to your intimate relationship.

Good girls don't dream of that

Another complex is caused by the rejection of their own sexual fantasies. In real life, you can be an ideal wife, ironing mountains of linen and cooking delicious borscht, and in your thoughts you have sex in the entrance, risking being caught. You may be intimidated by these pictures, and one day you will decide that something is wrong with you. And having decided this, you will transfer your self-doubt to bed with your husband.

What to do? Savor your sexual fantasies as if it is the most enjoyable thing you can think of! Do not under any circumstances put on yourself the stigma of a libertine - you are a normal woman, and your imagination paints quite normal pictures for you. Instead of dwelling on "normalcy," think about how exciting and sexy you seem to yourself. And then with this mood - in the arms of a real man!