Silence game?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

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But the vocabulary does not expand much when the World Cup is broadcasted on TV: "Gooooool!.. Mazila! Where are you hitting ?! Referee for soap!". And sometimes, having jumped out in marriage, you begin to suspect: have you not cut your beloved language in the registry office, that he so rarely uses it for explanations. But, on reflection, you remember: even during the courtship period, he did not read "Eugene Onegin" by heart and did not use Solomon's Song of Songs, praising your seductive forms, which he himself saved from the clutches of linen and clothes.

What's the matter? Why don't you feed women with bread, but let them gossip about everything. And men are so stingy with words, convincing themselves and those around them that silence is golden? It turns out that the clever science of biology knows the answers to these questions. In the rulers of women’s thoughts, the right hemisphere of the brain is better developed than the left, in which the centers of speech are located. Ladies, on the other hand, are left-handed and, as a result, chatty. In addition, men have one more problem - the fragmentation of the centers of speech. In ladies, they are concentrated in one point - the frontal lobe, and in gentlemen also in the occipital part of the brain. And according to the laws of biology, if the center of vital functions is not localized in one place, these functions suffer. So the majority of our chosen ones do not differ in eloquence.

Psychologists say that if you put on different scales the sir and madam with the same level of education (weight, passport data and preferences do not count), then it turns out that the vocabulary that the fair sex owns is three times higher than that of men. The average woman's vocabulary is approximately 23,000 words (not 30 like the famous Ellochka the cannibal).

If we compare the group of words denoting emotions and feelings, it turns out that the female sex operates with love vocabulary 6 times more often than the male. So it turns out that gentlemen are not greedy for words at all, they simply do not know them! Therefore, a man is not an interlocutor for a woman.

Moreover, that part of a man's brain, which is responsible for conducting small talk, is "blocked" closer to the night - and in women it is just the opposite. Therefore, having come home from work in the evening, a man becomes capable exclusively of reflex actions, such as: find out what we have for dinner tonight, turn on the TV, brush his teeth, fulfill his marital duty and retreat into the arms of Morpheus.

Don't jump to premature conclusions though. The ability of an individual great-great-grandson Adam to speak beautifully depends on the great-great-granddaughter Eve, who is next to him. A. Poleev, sexologist, professor at the Institute of Psychoanalysis at Moscow State University, claims: men who live happily ever after with their half begin to formulate and voice thoughts more often and better. A similar trend is not observed among bachelors, who from time to time add bright colors of short love stories to the dark canvas of their loneliness. It has been proven that after 10 years of marriage, the gap in vocabulary with their wives is reduced to 1.5 times for married people.

However, there are pitfalls everywhere. Having talked to your silent, you risk hearing something like a well-known song: "I explained to my beloved how the winch pulls the trawl. But she doesn't want to listen, she wants to kiss." After all, your ears are not interested in stories about synchrophasotrons and the device of blast furnaces, you want words of love and admiration. Especially when you, for once, have carved out minutes from life to have sex.

In principle, voicing intimate caresses is not required. Otherwise, you will begin to feel like a commentator on sports battles and you will forget what you are going to do on white sheets, not to score balls into the goal. But surrendering in deathly silence, interrupted by hellish moans (yours) and the creak of the bed, is not interesting, but rather scary. Especially for inexperienced foreign ears. In addition, certain words in bed play the role of a "trigger" for a considerable number of partners. Women are no longer in such ecstasy as they used to be, from a strong, silent male, their ears are now tuned more sensitively than ever. And the man of the 2000s now also, more than ever, needs verbal support. The best formula for sexual contact: so that word and deed are organically combined. Try to nudge your loved one to communicate during intimacy.

Again, I will make a reservation, sexologists are convinced that those words that are unsuitable for everyday life are necessary in sex. Non-literary words, spoken at the right moment, can excite many, become an incentive to kindle desire and wild passion. Montaigne also exclaimed: "Let it not be ashamed to say what is not ashamed to feel!" I want to add it: the Russian language is great and powerful, but it is in bed that we are ashamed of it.

For example, what should be called the male genital organ, and the female and, naturally, designate the verb of action for two bodies intertwined together? All other love chatter can revolve around these three main words. But with them, the tense situation. What is written with gusto on the fence behaves quite unpredictably in intimacy.

Voiced desires and feelings are a versatile sex toy that can be included in a seductress's arsenal. Modern sexologists advise using the vocal apparatus in order to stimulate a partner, challenge him, convey his impulses, communicate desires, force him not to weaken activity … According to sexologists, men adore tricks on the topic of their dignity, especially if a woman is able to find a suitable enthusiastic adjective. "Now your nimble animal will fall into a trap!" - is written off, but at some moments of intimacy it sounds very good. But the phrase is so hackneyed, I want to come up with something original, but it doesn't work out. Crap! After all, there was once a secret language of love. For example, the love language of flowers, when the visit of an admirer with an armful of meter-long scarlet roses meant one thing, but with a cactus in a pot, it meant something else. Or in the language of fans - an open, quivering whisper: "Jose Antonio, I am all yours! From now and to this day", and a closed one: "Lamour not tujur", which in French means "love has passed, tomatoes wilted".

The principle "what I see, then I sing" is the easiest way to talk. You can comment on what is happening in bed: tell how your partner looks, what he does, and how you feel. Hearing about it while doing it is a great incentive. You should not invent neologisms and dashingly operate with comparisons.

A great example of how you can get yourself screwed up while searching for new words is described in the short story "The Language of Love" by Robert Sheckley. The hero of the work, named Toms, believed that phrases like: "I love you", "I'm crazy about you" were too banal and unconvincing. They not only did not convey all the depth and trepidation of his feelings, but belittled them. After all, every hit, every cheap melodrama was full of exactly the same expressions. In addition, people endlessly used these words in ordinary everyday situations, saying that they love sunsets and are crazy about tennis. "He tried to explain himself with his beloved Doris in not hackneyed phrases, and his speech turned out to be rather flowery:

As a result, having gone to learn the language of love from the Tian civilization and returning savvy back, the main character realized that he needed to express himself specifically.

To begin with, choose neutral words - with spices it is better to wait until the second time. And do not forget to read the above-mentioned Solomon's speech - an example of oratory to improve your skills: