Teenager and adults

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-18 00:05

If you have a teenage child …

It's time baby- teenager, it's time to collect the "berries", in comparison with which all the previous problems will seem like innocent flowers. The adolescent age resembles a rebellion on a ship, a rebellion against the usual foundations, authorities and parental authority - sometimes meaningless, but inevitable. You just need to remember that, firstly, your grown-up child personally has nothing against you, he simply asserts himself in the ways available to him, trying to resist the world of adults, to which he already so wants to join, but into which he is not yet allowed. And secondly, it's not forever, is it? Then, in a few years, when the "child goes crazy", you will laugh together at this "adult" period of his life.

The child really begins to grow up, the circle of his interests and needs expands, so there is nothing abnormal in attempts to assert himself and try something new. Of course, you really want to ban it right away, bang your fist on the table, punish, but the days of slaps are over, and a conversation in a raised voice can only harden the young "rebel" and bring no result. It is impossible to predict all the dangers that may lie in wait adolescent, and yet - "forewarned, then - armed!". Of course, all the common truths should be instilled in a child from an early age, but the fact of the matter is that a teenager tends to violate them - either because of the hidden malignancy inherent in this age, or because of an irresistible desire to try the "forbidden fruit". Be that as it may, parents of even the most prosperous and problem-free children often face such-and-such problems that they never dreamed of!

Clever and excellent pupil Natasha came from the school disco - well, how to put it - very tipsy, muttering something incoherently, trying to perform "Dance of Little Swans" and sing Lensky's aria. Mom is in shock, dad clutches at his heart, there is nothing to say about grandmother - after all, "in our time, young people …" (further in the text).

The girls smoke in the backyards, hide cigarettes, then spray themselves with deodorants, chew Stimorol, and when vigilant mothers still demand a report, they pull in a whiny voice: “It's not me, it's Lenka (Svetka, Yulka, etc. - the main thing to name not the best friend, but someone "away" so that my mother does not "get enough") smoke. And I stood nearby. True, true! ".

Igor, who used to be interested mainly in football and cars, suddenly began to unequivocally hint to his parents that it would be nice for them to go to the cinema for an evening show or to the theater or some other place … through the streets to a complete awesomeness.

Similar situations - a carriage and a small cart

I'm not even talking about such horror as drug addiction (on this occasion, one of my acquaintances, in response to my outraged statements about smoking sixth-graders, said - "Yes, let them smoke, just not to inject!"), About AIDS and venous diseases, about pregnancy and abortion. God! And yet - don't panic! Do you know a good saying - "do what you must, and come what may"? Well, you can't save everything from everything, and sometimes you can help - just not openly - teenagers can't stand edifications - but unobtrusively.

For example, with regard to alcohol (of course, not at thirteen years old!) - yes, teenagers are going, they can drink a bottle, you can't get away from this. So maybe to remove the "veto" and legalize the use of champagne and good dry wines (this is better than a cheap burda)? Let your child (wow! - no longer a child) know that on a holiday he can bring friends and legally have a drink. So he became uninteresting (all the same "forbidden fruit")!

In matters of sexual education, everyone chooses the tactics of communicating with the child, but prohibitions will not help here - that's for sure! If you are uncomfortable - throw the book, turn on the TV at the right time, send it to the lecture, in short, let me know how to behave in order to avoid the unwanted (see above) consequences of intimate relationships. In the end, sometimes it is possible to "free up the territory" - it is better to let them meet in an apartment than in some basement.

And try to pay less attention to such "little things" as three earrings in the ear, a fashionable tattoo, dyed or cut hair, an unusual outfit - well, they are all like that now, there's nothing you can do! And also, remember, and you yourself were what you were when you were old adolescent?

Yulia ALEXANDROVA