Unequal salaries

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

No matter how many subordinates a cool boss has, she will always remain, firstly, a little daughter for her parents, and, secondly, a weak woman for her loved one. And this is damn great!

What's stopping you?

A modern girl knows that she must rely on herself. She is afraid of the word"

Marriage is postponed indefinitely. The latest generation cosmetics erases age, shaping and massage keep the figure in its original form. But when a career makes itself, leaving a field for other crops, and some heights of life have been conquered, the question arises of simple female happiness. And here we are faced with one of life's paradoxes, which must be taken as an axiom, since it is useless to fight this.

It will turn out that it is not so easy to find yourself, such a wonderful and clever man, a man equal. Both at 33 and at 22. Peers have been married for a long time, younger people choose younger ones, older men either have a solid "baggage", or are no longer suitable for a couple of an interesting beautiful woman. Judging by the content of numerous women's Internet forums, finding a decent and good man today is an unthinkable problem. And even if a suitable specimen falls into the field of vision, someone younger and more conservative is always behind you.

But that's not all. Suddenly, it turns out that your interesting job and decent salary do not help you, but on the contrary - they hinder you! Firstly, you yourself filter men according to the principle "forgive your generosity, the quality is not my manufacture", rejecting those whom you would have considered a gift of fate five years ago. Secondly, they themselves, sensing your self-sufficiency and independence, do not dare to get involved in battle.

A textbook example is Gosha, aka Goga, aka Zhora, aka Gora, aka Georgy Ivanovich from the epic "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears." There was a positive man ("And he has no shortcomings!" - Katerina cries out to her friends in tears), but he could not do such a trifle - he could not put up with his wife, the headmistress. "By this she made it clear that professional status is more important for her than my, personal, status!" - explains Gosha, to which her friend's husband Nikolai gives: "Translate."

I am translating. The head of the family is not a nominal position at all. It implies leadership in everything: in decision-making, in bed, in the distribution of responsibilities. The notorious phrase "it's not a man's business - washing the dishes" and the habit of paying for a woman in a restaurant is from the same opera. Financial superiority is a powerful weapon, and not only and not so much in family battles, but also in a man's self-esteem. And if it is enough for a woman to be charming for self-affirmation, then a man must be wealthy. A man who lives with a rich woman is called a gigolo, and nothing else. And women's assurances that they are all the same - the best and favorite, and in general money is just paper - do not mean anything. Men won't believe it. And all because women really are cunning.

I don’t know how the further fate of the heroes "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears" developed. But scientists, faced with the problem of "unequal wages", are unanimous: such families are viable only in rare cases. Too much tact is required from a woman so as not to comment on the “absence of a normal man in the house,” too rarely men are willing to put up with the fact that a tired wife demands that some of the household chores be removed from her. To the fundamental conviction that the homemaker is the wife and no one else is mingled with annoyance that he is deprived of the man's right to punch the table and shout "Who the hell is making money?"

Let the man be the main earner. This corresponds to both psychology and the long-established structure of relationships. And this does not at all contradict the ever-growing wave of female super salaries. It's just that if a man has a head on his shoulders - and we don't need others - then he can make money himself. And always, in any conditions, to remain a real man. There are families where the husband is a householder. The famous Kamenskaya and her reliable Alexei are the embodiment of the dreams of modern business ladies. But, even earning millions, you should not declare this in family life. Let the man believe that he is still the breadwinner and that he is responsible for the family he cares about. Do not deprive him of this joy. Bringing your beloved chic bouquets, indulging her, looking at the showcase in the jewelry, answering positively to the question "can we afford it" - this is a thrill that is known to men who earn money. And if he has some work troubles - well, that's what a woman is to support and inspire him.

And in their unanimous rejection of overly successful girlfriends, men are ridiculously similar. Whether it is the president of a major bank or a university teacher, the husband, in his opinion, should be at least a little taller than his wife. Or - the wife is even a little lower. It depends on how you put the question - either one to go up a step, or the other - to go down. By the way, some women are absolutely sure that a man's persistent desire to have a child is nothing more than a subconscious desire to tie his wife to the house, to make her more dependent - read, feminine.

As one man, by the way, a successful lawyer, said: “Oh, a business woman is something. She walks in an expensive suit, on heels, in her hands a briefcase of six hundred dollars, a laptop in her briefcase, slams the door of his Peugeot and drives off. falling in love with such and conquering her is really a feat. Although I have never tried it: scary."