When treason is good

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The family life of modern people is hard to imagine without treason. One or two, or maybe regular … Many women, married or already divorced, say that cheating becomes inevitable when the relationship with a partner cracks. And we often hear from men that they are unfaithful to their wives … for the sake of treason itself. So what happens? Horror? Degradation of humanity?

Not at all. Cheating can be beneficial. This is the opinion of Svetlana Alexandrova, a psychologist at the family planning center.

- I'll give you a fairly simple example. A woman came to me complaining that her husband was cheating. They began to think - why? It turned out that her husband was simply tired of the fact that she was holding him under her heels, infringing on his pride, and so on. With his mistress, he has the opportunity to assert himself. A measured way of life was added here, relations in the family did not develop in any way: everything flowed in one direction. The woman turned out to be a fairly wealthy person, but recently she did not look after herself. Cheating on her husband forced me to reconsider my attitude to appearance. As a result, it did her good, and her husband returned to the family. And the relationship between them has changed. This is a particular example. Cheating can also be beneficial because a person has fallen in love. His love carries over to the world around him.

- Let's imagine that a relationship between two close people or just a family relationship is a building. So that it does not collapse, it must be constantly repaired, the fortress of this building depends largely on the foundation on which it stands. It's the same with human relationships. If they periodically"

- With the monotony of relationships. Love, passion in a relationship between two close people exists for about two years, then these feelings cool down a little, but at the same time, one cannot say that love has passed, everything is over. Relations are modernized, and when this does not happen, a crisis ensues. It is necessary to periodically bring some new live stream into your relationship. We must remember that the crisis is temporary, a little patience and everything will return to normal, you should not flog a fever, look for consolation on the side. For example, psychologists advise at this moment a married couple to try to remember all the good things that they had. To go over in memory all the affectionate and playful names that were called you, and which you pronounced, to recall the trials we experienced together, the birth of the first child, the appearance of his first teeth, you must decide for yourself that everything was not so bad that at one moment you take and cross out your family life by going to the left …

- Not always. I would single out two categories of male infidelity: the so-called drunk, that is, when a man drank in a company and went with this company, as they say, “for women,” and deliberate betrayal, when a person is aware of his actions, understands that commits. Very often, after infidelity, men feel guilt towards their partner, regret it. After this kind of betrayal, family relationships can reach a new level of development. In other words, a man understands that his wife is better than the other, and tries to give her more affection, attention. But here it all depends on the specific pair.

- You need to sit down and think about everything. It is not important whether they cheat on you or not, it is important - why? This is the question you should ask yourself. Maybe it's not that your partner is such-and-such a reveler, maybe he lacks something in his relationship with you? What? This is what you should think about. And there is no need to throw tantrums. It is necessary to say about your feelings, if they, of course, exist. Show your partner that love lives here, next to him, that you can give him the same. I would not advise at all to say that you know about the betrayal. This should be done only if the problem can be discussed calmly without shouting.

- There can be no single answer. Some women said that it would be better if they did not know anything. It all depends on the people. If, after listening, the partner understands and forgives everything, never again remembering this and in no case reproaching, then it is possible. Then, I think, such a relationship can be called love, sincere and without pretensions.

Of course, you can talk about treason for a long time. But what if this happened to you? First, go to a venereologist (no kidding), and then drop by a psychologist. They say it helps.